How men fall in love |
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When a man is disillusioned by his first love he often feels lost however emotional. Pining to express these emotions and escape the emptiness men tend to idealize the first woman they happen to meet. The greater is their desire to have a family the less picky men are. Studies show that men more often have a dominant left cerebral hemisphere while women have the right one. Not being able to understand women’s behavior, men are convinced that the "female logic" is the lack of any logic! However female logic to its great extent is based on feelings and emotions. |
In France there is a well known historical anecdote about Mademoiselle de Sommer. Being caught by her lover at the
"crime" scene, she courageously denied everything, but when her lover became excited, she said:
"Well, it’s clear that you do not love me anymore since you believe what you see rather then what I tell you! "
It is true, people see and believe only what they what to see and believe.
Women instinctively consider intellect, logic and trustworthiness the main virtues of men. Men, also intuitively, are mostly
enchanted by women’s beauty. No wonder they say that women love with ears. So if years ago you made your declaration of love
one spring moonlight night then do not think that you don’t need to repeat it while you live together so she will be sure that
you love her as passionately.
Love feeds on emotions, feelings and sensations. No wonder that sexuality as one of its expressions suffers when love is
being analyzed, controlled or rationalized. However it becomes clear that for men the sensuality prevails especially at
first while women admire spiritual qualities of men.
Keep in mind that men unlike women fall in love passionately at once. I’d like to note that sorting thing out at night
is not going to do any good. Night is the time to make it up with each other. Family remains solid if problems are
solved before morning comes. If conflicts affect sex life then family is in trouble. The everyday life outside the
family is already full of stress and conflicts.
It is easier to find a life partner when you are young. Men are not very experienced, full of energy and not terribly picky.
When they get mature men become less energetic but more sophisticated and careful due to previous negative experience.
Now they consider all “con and pros”. They are still interested in women however what these men ready to sacrifice
has changed along with the variety of women who are worth it. Most fiends are married by that time however their
complicated family lives don’t inspire. Evaluation of women’s attractiveness at this stage is based on inveterate stereotypes.
The more mature is the men the harder it is for him to find a life partner since he is getting used to be alone and the requirements are getting higher.
The crises in young family occurs when one of the partners make it resemble his or her parent’s family. When husband was brought up by single mother
surrounded by constant care and attention he expects the same from his wife while for women, men who needs a babysitter, is the worst nightmare.
Women are more extroverted and outgoing while men are rather introverted and resigned. Therefore what may seem normal for a woman can be considered extravagant
for a man. Criticizing your wife for hasty actions, keep in mind that this would do most of the fairer sex. She wants to be understood and sympathized by her partner.
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