Usual mistakes at first meeting |
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Everyone has met people before however not everyone has ponder if he does it right. Meanwhile the way you meet people is very important for further relationships with them whether it is friendship, business or romantic ones. Everyone conducts himself differently when meeting people due to difference in character, the way to present oneself and many other internal factors. However there is certain temple of “right” way to meet people. Let’s try to figure out how one should conduct himself at first meeting so it will be successful. To define secret rules of meeting we should first consider the most common mistakes that happen during this act. For example, let’s consider meeting of opposite sexes meaning men and woman since they just make the most of the mistakes. Besides it does not depend on gender; both sexes make mistakes. 1. Lack of confidence. This nervous condition is familiar to everyone, in fact at it is normal at the first meeting because many people want to look better than they really are but they are not always sure if that they succeed at it. People are nervous in different ways: some bit lips (or even worse nails!), some twirl hair on a finger, and some tap virtuously drumbeat on any surface probably in an effort to show their excellent sense of rhythm. Often these actions occur unconsciously but believe me it's annoying. So at the first meeting you should try to maximally pull yourself together and mentally give yourself a confidence you lack. |
2. Stereotypes. You should not judge at first look and think that all women are careless and men are rough,
even if you have met just like these ones before. There are exceptions, so get these stereotypes out of your
mind and try to look at your date in a positive light.
3. Tong-tie. The way you speak and what you say is one of the main evaluation criteria along with the appearance and behavior.
Therefore even if you haven’t been able to get rid of tong-tie over the years and abuse such words as "so", "well" and some others
while speaking try to watch it and "filter" the speech, as it directly affects your ability to keep the intelligent conversation.
4. Too much emotions or a lack of them. If you a woman who is used to sob over a broken long nail or laugh your head off over a joke,
take it easy. Emotions should be in moderation otherwise a person can easily question your adequacy. Well, if you a man sitting with
a straight face while your date is doing her best to impress you then she will think you are absolutely not interested in her while
you are just emotionally reserved man.
5. Attention. We are all selfish by nature some people are more others less. Therefore we all love to receive tokens of appreciation.
Let the girl first by, adjust a chair for her; it is not difficult and your date would consider you a gentleman. As for the girls, you
can postpone chatting over the phone with your girlfriend for later, and the constant running to the lady’s to "powder your nose" is
not going to do any good. Your nose is fine; better pay attention to what your date is talking about even if you are not very interested.
To summarize the above said, be yourself at first meeting however keep in mind that each of us ought to work on mistakes so we do not repeat them in future. |
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